12 steps to the leader’s Self Care

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Leadership starts from the leader’s well-being.

Here’s, according to Roy Bennet (@InspiringThinkn), the 12 steps to Self Care:

  1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
  2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
  3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
  4. Trust your instincts.
  5. Never speak bad about yourself.
  6. Never give up on your dreams.
  7. Don’t be afraid to say “No”.
  8. Don’t be afraid to say “Yes”.
  9. Be kind to yourself.
  10. Let go of what you can’t control.
  11. Stay away from drama and negativity.
  12. Love.

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Speak beyond words!

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You don’t speak with your mouth: you speak with your body, too.

Or rather: your body speaks for you. Your body’s movements and positions express your thoughts and feelings. Your facial expressions communicate information. Also, body positions affect attitude.This happens silently and often mechanically.

Body language does not have a real grammar. The first step is to become aware of it. For this to happen, you have to practice. Here are some tips:

  1. Do not gesture above your shoulders.
  2. Talk more with your hands.
  3. Watch your eyes (eye contact is important).

Interesting? Find more here.

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9 Ways Mentally Strong People Retain Their Personal Power

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Ami Morin, author of the “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do“, says that probably the hardest thing is “to not give away your power”.

In this article, she gives us a list of nine ways to keep our personal power:

1. Don’t waste energy complaining;
2. Accept responsibility for how you feel;
3. Establish healthy boundaries;
4. Practice forgiveness;
5. Know your values;
6. Don’t waste time on unproductive thoughts;
7. Avoid language that implies you’re a victim;
8. Make your self-worth independent of other’s opinions;
9. Be willing to stand out from the crowd.

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A Master Procrastinator’s mind

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Tim Urban knows that procrastination doesn’t make sense, but he has never been able to shake his habit of waiting until the last minute to get things done.

In this hilarious and insightful TED talk, Urban takes us on a journey through YouTube binges, Wikipedia rabbit holes and bouts of staring out the window — and encourages us to think harder about what we’re really procrastinating on, before we run out of time.

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The road to happiness, according to neuroscience

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According to UCLA neuroscience researcher Alex Korb, you can create an upward spiral of happiness in your life through 4 simple rituals:

1. Ask yourself what you are grateful for
The benefits of gratitude start by improving the dopamine system, but it also boosts the serotonin production. And gratitude doesn’t just make your brain happy, it can also create a positive feedback loop in your relationships. So express that gratitude to the people you care about.

2. Label Negative Feelings
Studies demonstrate that consciously recognizing the emotions reduce their impact. Meditation has employed this skill for centuries. Labeling is a fundamental tool of mindfulness.

3. Make That Decision
Ever make a decision and then your brain finally feels at rest? That’s no random occurrence. Brain science shows that making decisions reduces worry and anxiety.

4. Touch people
No, not indiscriminately (that can get you in a lot of trouble). But we need to feel love and acceptance from others. When we don’t, it’s painful. Touching is incredibly powerful. We just don’t give it enough credit. It makes you more persuasive, increases team performance, improves your flirting… heck, it even boosts math skills.

To learn more, read the full article by Eric Barker on Time.

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How to talk so others will listen

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A post published on the Coaching Positive Performance blog stresses the importance of communication skills as a pivotal part of everyday life.

It highlights 7 essential communication skills which will improve the quality and effectiveness of our communication in order to deliver a clear and specific message to our audience:

  1. Be complete
  2. Be concise
  3. Be considerate
  4. Get your facts right
  5. Be clear
  6. Be courteous
  7. Keep it appropriate

The post also suggests to master communication skills with a simple but powerful guide to communicating with confidence.

Read more here.

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