Today we focus more on how to talk and less on how to listen Others. We spend roughly 60 percent of our communication time listening, but we’re not very good at it. We retain just 25 percent of what we hear. This is not trivial, because listening is our access to understanding. Conscious listening always creates understanding.
Our body shapes who we are.
In this TED talk, Amy Cuddy, a social psychologist, explains how our body language can influence our life, detrmining what people think of us. This is why she suggests to take few minutes before our next stressful situation to change our body language in a way to cope with that situation. Our bodies change our mind, our minds cand change our behaviour and our behaviour can change our outcomes.
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According to her, clearly defining and communicating your value are essential to being paid well for your excellence. At first you should define the value that your clients get from working with you and you should communicate it.
These are the two elements to realizing our full earning potential.
English is fast becoming the world’s universal language, and instant translation technology is improving every year. So why bother learning a foreign language?
- If you want to imbibe a culture, if you want to drink it in, if you want to become part of it, then you have to control to some degree the language that the culture happens to be conducted in. There’s no other way.
- It’s been shown that if you speak two languages, dementia is less likely to set in, and that you are probably a better multitasker. Bilingualism is healthy.
- Languages are just lot of fun.
- We live in an era when it’s never been easier to teach yourself another language.
The principle behind the art of public diplomacy is not new: in order to advance your goals you need to engage, listen, discuss, persuade and ultimately influence others.
Now, if all this is true, is there a chance for introverts to be good diplomats?
First of all, she explains what introversion is. She argues that Western culture misunderstands and undervalues the traits and capabilities of introverted people although some of our leaders in history have been introverts: Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, and Gandhi.
Nowadays, according to Cain, we entered a new culture that historians call the culture of personality and introverts are pressured to act like extroverts instead of embracing their serious, often quiet and reflective style.
In our workplace when we think to leadership, introverts are routinely passed over for leadership positions, even though introverts tend to be very careful, much less likely to take outsize risks and introverted leaders often deliver better outcomes than extroverts do. Introverts tend to be more empathetic, modest, deep-thinking and innovative.
Cain is not seeking introvert domination but a better balance and inclusion of different work styles, acknowledging that big ideas and great leadership can come from either personality type.
“All experience is local. All identity is experience. I’m not a national. I’m a local. I’m multi-local.”
In her TEDTalks Taiye Selasi says that people’s identity cannot be explained only through a national identity. Although countries remain important in shaping our identity, in order to really know who someone is, we would better ask “where are you local?”.
Tim Urban knows that procrastination doesn’t make sense, but he has never been able to shake his habit of waiting until the last minute to get things done.
In this hilarious and insightful TED talk, Urban takes us on a journey through YouTube binges, Wikipedia rabbit holes and bouts of staring out the window — and encourages us to think harder about what we’re really procrastinating on, before we run out of time.
We often spend years and years, day after day in job we don’t really love. Or we struggle trying to find out which job we would really love.
The first step? Understand yourself!
Chris Lonsdale is a psychologist from New Zealand who runs a company in Hong Kong. After spending many years assessing all of the research available on language learning, he was able to formulate five principles and seven actions that will allow any adult to learn a new language and speak it fluently in six months.
Discover Lonsdale’s approach in his TED Talk.